Tenant allows neighbor to use their Wi-Fi for free, only for neighbor to use it to blast music at 3 AM, tenant immediately changes their password: 'I don’t think he appreciated that'

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Feb 14, 2025 6:00 PM EST

If you identify as a 'people pleaser', you know how challenging it is to walk the earth without feeling like a constant disappointment. Dark, I know, but those who know what I am talking about, understand the struggle.

Everywhere you look, everywhere you go, there are always people who you want, and need, to please. You want them to like you, so you would do anything to make it happen, even if it hurts you in the process. You absolutely know it makes no sense, that you cannot expect everyone who meets you to like you, and you shouldn't put everyone else's needs above your own. But you do it anyway, and you cannot stop, which is how we end up with stories like the one down below.

Wanting to be liked by your neighbors is one of the biggest challenges of a people pleaser, especially because neighbors are the worst. You can be as accommodating and considerate as possible, and your neighbor will still find something to complain about.

If you don't believe me, maybe you will after reading this story.

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    "AITA for shutting off my WiFi at night"

    Hello yall, hopefully this post is not too long as I don't want to take up a lot of your time. So let's begin from the beginning, I moved into my new apartment in July of last year and no one lived below me for a
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    couple of months. After a couple months a guy moved in. The first thing I have experienced from him was blasting his music so loudly that it sounded like it was coming from my apartment as well as vibrating my floors and
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    walls. I have never met him before this and after that I asked him to just try to keep quiet after 11 PM at that is around the time I go to bed. Very frequently he does not shut it off after 11 and I get woken up at 3 AM to
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    it. There was even a time where I had to miss four hours of my scheduled hours at work because he played it until 4 in the morning and I couldn't sleep and had to get up at 5:30 for work to work an 12 hour shift. I
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    have had minimal contact with him for the occasional neighbor stuff like "can you grab my package off the porch so it doesn't get stolen" etc. well a couple days ago he asked me to use my WiFi for a couple of days
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    until he can pay his own WiFi. I allow him to use it for free of charge because I know we are all struggling in this economy. However, I have this deep fear of a fire happening at my house, so I unplug everything at night that
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    is not being used. WiFi being one of them as I do not need it when I am sleeping. I woke up this morning to messages from the neighbor that are so disrespectful about the WiFi not being on. AITA?
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    جو ولى
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    Update: Thank you all for your replies. I have decided to change my WiFi password and not allow him to use it. A little more background though on a couple of things though. So the apartment I live in is more of a
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    duplex so there is only me upstairs and the downstairs neighbor who live here. As for the noise complaint I have called the police and the only thing that happens is he will turn the music off when they come but
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    the next day it is back to being on. I have learned there is some battles worth fighting and this one isn't worth my battle as it is never going to change no matter who I go to about it. As for the whole letting him use the
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    Wifi thing is that I don't want to cause issues while I'm living here and I want to keep the peace as to not make things worse then they are. However at this point I have done everything to keep the peace and none of it does not seem to be working so I might as well just be an "a-he".
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    Update #2: The WiFi password has been changed and WiFi name has been changed. I don't think he appreciated that because he blew my phone up while I was in class then just texted me Bet when I did not
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    answer. I'm pretty sure he has his own WiFi now as his music is once again blaring. I'm also pretty sure he is planning something because I was just outside with my dog and girlfriend and he was recording
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    us through the window on his phone. Im not really sure where to go from here as I cannot move just yet so I think I am gonna talk to some people to see what I can do from this point forward.
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  • As an avid people pleaser, I completely understand the need to help a new neighbor out, even if they haven't been the best. Allowing someone to use your Wi-Fi password is seemingly easy, it doesn't cost you any money, and it is a one-time thing. 

    However, as mentioned above, neighbors are the worst, and they are incapable of being civil even if you just did them a solid favor. 

    Learn from this story, kids, don't lose sight of your own needs, even (and especially) if it's to help others.

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    annotatedkate NTA but you are a little dumb! You had a perfect bargaining chip and you threw it away! "You can use my wifi if you stop being noisy between the hours of 11 pm and 8 am."
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    It is weird that you unplug your wifi at night but ultimately you can do whatever you please with it because it's yours. I have a hard time believing that you're actually questioning this. Like what am I missing? The guy can pound sand; beggars can't be choosers.
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    Human-Bell-9063 OP I mean you aren't wrong, I did have the perfect bargaining chip. I mean I guess it is weird but I grew up in a household where we unplugged everything not being used so it was less of a chance of a fire. I grew up in firefighting. home where their worst fear was
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    a fire starting at our home. So I guess I just got use to it and have been doing it into adulthood. I mean I'm technically not questioning it per se. I would like to say I'm not the a hole but I could be biased with my thinking as it about me so I wanted to get outside opinions.
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    australian9191 Nta why u even allowed him access in the first place is nots. Yes things are hard but he never respected u so why do u owe him any respect
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    Kaiisim NTA, but you need therapy if you are this easy to walk over!
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    arboresca ΝΤΑ It's your WiFi, you're the one paying for it. If all he's using it for is to disturb you in the middle of the night with his music, turning it off is perfectly justified.
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